We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.
[Marianne Williamson]

Saturday, July 07, 2007

Confessions of an heriditary hoarder

I am a hoarder. My sister is a hoarder. My mother is a hoarder. My grandmother was a hoarder. If you traced my maternal line back to the stone age, I am sure you would find the cave of my ancestress filled with rocks, stones and pebbles, leaves, dried flowers and grasses, scraps of fur, bone and sinew, twigs and sticks, and anything else you might think of because it glitters prettily in the sunlight or just might come in handy one day.

The problem is, my husband is also a heriditary hoarder. Between us we manage to have "stuff" overflowing from every surface, box, cupboard and drawer - most of which has not been touched by anything except dust since it was originally placed there.

Even with things I use regularly - Wombat's clothes for example - the "stuff" tends to accumulate out of control. I only sorted out and tidied his drawers two weeks ago, and already I am battling to close them, and having to pull everything out to find the item I need...

So my new habit for this week is going to be one of the hardest things I have ever attempted. I am going to DECLUTTER (ignoring the tiny shrieking self who runs for cover in my innermost being leaving handfuls of torn-out hair behind her)...

That's right. On at least three separate occasions each week, I will attack a different drawer, box, container, shelf or surface, throwing out, giving away or selling anything I can bear to part with, folding, sorting, dusting, tidying and rearranging. (I had thought of doing it every day, but the chances of that happening are miniscule, and then I would get caught in that procrastinating perfectionist trap of "I failed yesterday so it won't matter if I don't try today".)

Other habits are going well this week. A number of you expressed interest in reading more about Positive Parenting, so I have decided to keep track of my 'rabbit trails' (a term popular with homeschoolers, referring to how research on one subject often leads you down a rabbit trail to something else.) I think writing it down will also help me to remember, so each week I will post links and a summary of my research in a separate entry so as not to clutter up :) this one.

This week's Positive Parenting Rabbit Trail is: Tomato Staking.

I am also enjoying my daily prayer with Sacred Space, and thought I would end by sharing this snippet from today's meditation:
In God's loving presence I unwind the past day, starting from now and looking back, moment by moment. I gather in all the goodness and light, in gratitude. I attend to the shadows and what they say to me, seeking healing, courage, forgiveness.

SMART habit progress:

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Corrie said...

I feel the same way you do about the tomato staking concept.

Good work on your habits this week and good luck on the hoarding/decluttering.

Something I have heard that might be helpful - ask yourself "Is this adding to the Glory of my home?" meaning, does it help you to glory God by being in your home? If the answer is no, it might be easier to let it go.

Rebecca said...

Great job on your habits this week & best of luck on your new one of de-cluttering. My mom had trouble throwing things away and my grandma has more stuff than I want to think about right now. I know I've got the 'genetics' going against me so I have to make a conscious effort to not keep too much. I'm sure it will be difficult but the rewards after you are done will be well worth it!

Mique said...

I laughed so hard while reading your post about hoarding- i'm in that same club (not a good one to be a part of)...really enjoyed your post. :) good luck this week.

Michelle said...

I had to crack up at the beginning of your post and the cavemen. lol I bet you're going to love what your home feels like after you do some decluttering. Even in small amounts, they make huge differences!

Ginny said...

I love your post, lol. I am a hoarder too & I almost had my habit be what you are doing. Instead I simplified it a bit & am going to work on just keeping our kitchen table clutter free. I have to start small :) Good luck!

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